Dr. Neufeld’s model is built on three distinct but interconnected lenses used to "map" a child’s development:
For a child to feel safe, they must be in a "dependent" role, while the parent takes the "alpha" or provider role. Problems like bullying often stem from a "stuck" alpha complex in children who don't feel they can lean on their adults. The Gordon Neufeld Approach: Making Sense of Ch...
Unlike behavioral approaches that use "consequences" or "time-outs," the Neufeld approach views the parent-child relationship as the primary tool for change. The approach argues that maturation is spontaneous if
Detailed in his book Hold On to Your Kids (co-authored with Gabor Maté), Neufeld warns that children are increasingly turning to peers for attachment, which undermines parental influence and healthy development. Neufeld Intensive I: Making Sense of Kids and integrated individual.
The process of becoming a separate, viable, and integrated individual. The approach argues that maturation is spontaneous if conditions are conducive, rather than something that can be forced.