...: Why You're Not Married . . . Yet: The Straight

McMillan argues that many women use defensiveness or anger as a shield.

Learn that being "nice"—which includes kindness, laughter, and vulnerability—is a position of strength, not weakness. Why You're Not Married . . . Yet: The Straight ...

Focus on what you need (character, reliability, kindness) rather than what you think you should have. McMillan argues that many women use defensiveness or

Marriage is about giving. You must be willing to "go first" in showing care and support without immediate reciprocation. and vulnerability—is a position of strength

McMillan’s "The person you really need to marry" provides the philosophical foundation for this guide—marrying yourself first.